3 Things That Will Bring You More Self-Confidence
You know that thing you’ve been wanting to do?
That deep desire that doesn’t seem to go away?
That thing you feel deep down in your soul?
Maybe your life is pretty okay right now.
Or maybe you think it’s somehow wrong to want more.
Maybe you’re thinking “I already have an amazing life, but ____.”
It’s that thing that keeps tapping at your soul.
What’s holding you back from doing it?
My guess is it’s a lack of confidence on some level.
It’s the fear of rejection. The self-doubt that keeps putting up a stop sign.
Maybe you even tried and “it just didn’t work out.” Or maybe you just keep telling yourself “I would love to _____, but (fill in the blank).”
It all comes down to confidence. You might even think you’re a pretty confident person already. Our brains are tricky that way. Sometimes we get really good at making ourselves think we’re confident when we’re really not. There is something inside all of us that brings up self-doubt.
Here are 3 things that will help you to create more confidence.
Do the Thing That Scares You
There is confidence and then there is self-confidence. Did you know that they were different? Let me explain. Confidence comes in being secure in your abilities. It comes from what you do. So, one way to create more confidence is to take action!
Taking action increases your ability to do that thing…and increased capability increases confidence. Moving forward and taking massive action in your life creates more confidence, So, do the thing you are scared of doing. Fear is not a stop sign. It just means you’re about to do something big.
Make that decision you’ve been waiting to make. Do that thing you’ve always wanted to do. If you don’t know how to get started, start by taking action to find out how. Just get moving!
Do What You Say You Will Do
I’m not talking about keeping your word to other people. That’s usually easy for most of us. Isn’t funny that we’ll show up to lunch we planned with a friend because we said we would, but when we tell ourselves we’ll do something for ourselves, we bail?
Self-confidence largely comes from your ability to trust yourself.
It comes from knowing that you will do what you say you will do. You will show up for yourself. And have your own back. You will take care of yourself and you’ll do what you planned to do even when you don’t feel like it.
Most of us tend to say we will do something and then just hope we follow through on it. This leaves so much room for self-doubt…the opposite of self-confidence. Do you see it? You can’t build confidence if you can’t even count on yourself. It all starts with consistent follow through on your own word to yourself.
Be Willing to Experience It All
Did you know that the worst that can happen is an emotion? Self-confidence comes from trusting that you can experience any emotion no matter what life throws at you and you will be okay. No matter what happens outside of you, the worst of it is all the emotions it brings up for you…sadness, worry, anxiety, self-doubt, loneliness…they are all just vibrations in your body. Our emotions are what make life “bad” when it’s bad.
One of the reasons we spend so much time in self-doubt is because we don’t have the confidence to experience all the negative emotions and know we’ll be just fine. So we hide. We indulge in confusion, overwhelm, self-doubt and fear.
When we are willing to experience any emotion, knowing it’s the worst that could happen, we’ll exude self-confidence. Our ability to feel and process any emotion is like that warm blanket on a cold night. It’s the thing that will always keep us safe and warm.
What might happen for you if you decide today that you were just going to go for it in the face of fear and self-doubt, show up for yourself and be willing to experience all the emotions it brings up? What might you create for yourself?
P.S. If you’re ready to go to work on creating more confidence so you can start taking action to create the results you want in your life or career, let’s chat! I’ve been there. I can help you. Just click here to schedule a free 30 minute session.