Who Is She? Becoming Your Future Self
Often times we look to our past to tell us what’s in store for us in the future. We have pasts filled with failures, pain, challenges, obstacles and heartbreak. We focus on past “evidence” to determine who we are now rather than focusing on who we want to be; but everything in our past happened exactly the way it was supposed to happen. It happened for us, not to us-preparing us for our future. We can’t change anything. We can’t go back. There’s no magical re-do. Our pasts have provided us only with valuable lessons and an opportunity to do better. Let it go and get excited about your future!
Here are four things you can do to work your way to becoming the best version of you.
What Are Your Top 5 Outcomes?
Start by writing a list of the top 5 results you want to see in your life. Think about 1 year, 5 years and even 10 years from now. Where do you want to be in your life? What do you want to do or have? How do you want to feel? If you find yourself coming up with more than five, just write down everything you can think of, then narrow it down to the five that are most important to you.
Where Are You Heading Now?
This step can be truly eye opening. Keep track of everything you do for 2-5 days. Most people’s schedules look something like this during the week:
Get ready for work
Get kids ready for school
Bring kids to school
Go to work
Cook or pick up dinner
Get kids to activities
Get kids ready for bed
Watch TV or scroll social media
Go to bed
Weekends may look very different, so do this on a weekend as well.
Now, ask yourself …
“Where will I be in 5 years if I keep living this way? Will I be where I want to be in my life?”
Take a look at how many of your daily activities contribute to the top 5 outcomes you desire. Are you supporting what you want for yourself by what you are doing on a regular basis? If you’re not, that’s okay. Just notice it. Many of us aren’t. Many of us go through life doing the same thing over and over, all while wondering why our life isn’t where we want it to be.
When you realize that what you are doing most days is not resulting in the life you want, DON’T beat yourself up. Instead, show yourself some compassion. The point of this is not to bring you down into self-pity, but rather to just bring you some awareness so that you CAN create the life you want.
What Do You Want To Be An Example Of?
Next, take some time to think about what you want to be an example of in your life. Maybe you want to be an example of what an amazing mother looks like, or an example of what is possible to overcome. Perhaps you want to be an example of what can be achieved in your career or field of study, or maybe you just want to be an example to yourself of what you’re really capable of becoming. You can be an example of anything you choose!
Write A Letter From Your Future Self
“Every action that we take in our life is because of how we want to feel” – Brooke Castillo
Grab a pen and some paper and write a letter from your future self. No, seriously! Don’t just try to imagine it in your head. Write it down. No one but you has to see it.
Who is your future self? Who do you want to become? What does a happier, peaceful, higher version of yourself look like? Who is she?
Imagine for a minute your 90 year old self. Now ask your older, much wiser self:
- What should I start doing?
- What should I stop doing?
- What should I continue doing?
If you have trouble thinking that far ahead, try imaging what your future self in 2 to 5 years from now would say.
Picture her in your mind.
Now ask yourself…
- What does she look like physically?
- What does she think about?
- What kinds of things does she say to herself?
- What does her life look like?
- What does she do?
- How does she feel?
- What action does she take?
- How does she show up as her best self?
So, here is the most important part. Go be her NOW! You don’t have to wait for the future to feel the way you want to feel. Did you know you can feel all of those things right now? Isn’t that fascinating?! You can do the things she does, think the way she thinks and feel the way she feels…right now!
I want to challenge you to go through each of these steps above and tell me how it goes! Leave a comment. Tell me what was challenging for you about this and if it was helpful for you. I’d love your feedback. If you need extra help with seeing your future self or figuring out who you even want her to be, Sign up for a free 30 minute mini coaching session with me and let me help you.
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Stacy R. Landry