How to Become the CEO of Your Life
Are you feeling like life just hasn’t turned out the way you wanted it to? Maybe your relationships aren’t what you want them to be. Perhaps you aren’t making as much money as you would like or aren’t living the lifestyle that you dreamed of. Maybe you’re miserable in your job or just ready for a change. Or maybe you’re having difficulty finding the time to do it all and aren’t even having fun in your life anymore.
All of this is within you to change. You could have a
Here’s how to become the CEO of your own life.
Take 100% Responsibility
There is only one person that is responsible for the quality of your life and that person is YOU. If you want to step into the role of the CEO of your life you have to be willing to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life. And I mean everything…your results the quality of your relationships, your weight, your state of health, your income, your debt, and your feelings. You have to take responsibility for it all….your failures and successes.
It’s a simple concept, but not an easy task. It requires a level of emotional adulthood that most of us have never even been taught. It’s taking full responsibility for how we’re feeling no matter what someone else is doing or saying.
Give Up All Excuses
Part of taking 100% responsibility for your life is giving up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons you can’t or haven’t, and all of your thinking that outside circumstances are to blame. You have to just drop them all.
You have to realize that you have and have always had all the power to make things different. The past is the past, and all that matters now is what you choose to do moving forward.
When things happen in our life, we have thoughts about it. We make it mean something. Our thoughts about it cause us to feel an emotion. Our emotions, drive us to act in a certain way and our actions give us the results we have in our life. So, every result we have in our life is because of the thoughts we are thinking or beliefs that we have about how things should be.
We have to be willing to give up all of our excuses and take ownership of the results we have created or not created in our life. So, if you don’t like the way something has turned out in your life, you have to do something differently; and in order to take different action, you have to think different thoughts.
“Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses” – George Washington Carver
Give Up Blaming
Most of us have been conditioned to blame others for the things that go wrong in our life or the things we don’t like. We blame our parents, our childhood our bosses, our co-workers, our spouse, the government, the weather…and the list goes on. It’s easy to shy away from looking at the real problem…ourselves and our thinking. But, when we blame others or things outside of us for how we feel, we are delegating our emotional life to them.
Think about someone you have blamed for something recently. Is that the person you want to delegate your feelings to? Is that the person you want to be in charge of how you feel? My guess is no.
Blame is always a disempowering emotion. It may feel good at the moment when you’re upset; but if someone else is responsible for how you feel, then you have to rely on them to change how you feel. And we all know that we can’t make other people change. Besides, they are terrible at making us feel good. They just can’t seem to do what we want them to do. It’s like, as the CEO, you are handing out the most responsibility to the employees to like and trust the least.
The less you blame others or other things for the lack in your life, the more success you will find in your life. The key is to acknowledge the truth…that YOU are the one…
- Who ate junk food.
- You are the one who didn’t say no.
- The one who didn’t take care of it.
- You are the one who quit on yourself.
- Who stayed in an unhealthy relationship.
I don’t point this out for you to beat yourself up. Just the opposite…this is great news! Because it means YOU also have the power to change it all.
Give Up Complaining
In order to complain about something or someone, you have to believe that it shouldn’t have happened or that they should/shouldn’t have behaved in a certain way. Complaining comes from thinking that something better exists. For example, if you didn’t believe that more fun or a more loving partner was possible, then you couldn’t complain.
Complaining is just an ineffective response to something or someone that does not produce a better outcome. Many of the circumstances we complain about are all situations we can change but have chosen not to. Things like:
- Say no to things we don’t really want to do
- Going back to school or getting a different job
- Asking for help
- Hiring a babysitter or housekeeper
- Finding a more loving partner
- Making more money
- Eating healthier food
So, why don’t we just simply do these things? Because they usually involve some level of risk, fear, time, or extra effort; and it’s usually uncomfortable, so we stay put and complain about it instead.
Either accept that you are choosing to keep things as they are, taking responsibility for your choice and drop the complaining; or take the risk and create the life you want.
Pay Attention to Your Results
The easiest and quickest way to find out what is and isn’t working for you in your life is to pay attention to the results you are currently creating. You’re either happy or you’re not. You have what you want or you don’t. Results don’t lie.
Look around at your life and the people in it. Are you happy? Is there balance? Is there peace, love, and comfort? Are you getting what you want? Are you getting better in all areas of your life? Be honest with yourself. If not, only you can change that…by changing your behavior.
Step into your role as the CEO of your life. Take responsibility for your own happiness and let other people take responsibility for theirs. It beats making yourself crazy trying to make other people act in a way that would make you happy! Ya know?
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