How to Get Out of Your Own Stuckness
Do you do the things you do each day because you are committed or because you feel stuck?
Commitment, over time, can turn into an excuse for feeling stuck. We sometimes use our commitment to our families, children, spouses, homes and jobs as an excuse to stay stuck…thinking we have limited options or choices to create what we want in our life.
But feeling stuck is an emotion created by our thoughts. It’s not a very useful emotion as it drains our energy and blocks our ability to come up with solutions. And it causes us to layer on more negative emotions like worry, frustration, fear, obligation and resentment.
All of those emotions will likely drive inaction for us, further perpetuating our stuckness. Or they may drive us to negative reactions like arguing or yelling.
Here’s how you know if your stuck or operating out of obligation. You use the word “obviously” (or some variation of it) when talking about why you can’t do something.
“I would love to go back to school and finish my degree, but obviously I can’t right now because my kids are little and I don’t have the time.”
“If we just had a bigger house, it obviously wouldn’t be such a mess all the time.”
“Well I obviously can’t just quit my job.”
“I obviously can’t go to the gym when my husband isn’t home.”
It may feel obvious to you or even to other people, but it’s just not true. You have choices. They may not be easy or comfortable choices, but you do have choices.
So, how do you get out of your own stuckness?
Recognize and own what you are choosing. Because you are choosing it. When you’re feeling stuck, you’ve given up your power to circumstances outside of you. But you always get to choose. You can commit to making a different choice or you can choose to stay stuck. Both are created by your brain.
The feeling of committed is a much more useful emotion. It drives you to take more purposeful and positive actions.
Commitment helps you to tap into creativity, solutions, energy, enthusiasm and dedication.
When you’re feeling committed, you’re looking at a mirror…looking inward at what you might need to change in your thinking or your approach to create what you want.
So, which one are you choosing this week? Are you choosing to feel stuck or committed?
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