The Truth About Other People’s Opinions
Do you spend a lot of time trying to control what other people think of you? How is that working for you? My guess is that it’s not. We think we can control what other people think of us. So, we people please.
Maybe you do that by never saying “yes” even when you really don’t want to or by making sure you always look perfectly put together or by overspending so you have all the “things.” You go through all that effort just to try to get them to like you or approve of you.
But other people’s opinions are caused only by their thoughts about you…they’re not caused by anything you say or do. That’s why two people can have very different opinions of you and why no matter what you do, someone can still not like you.
I want you to imagine for a minute how much your life would change if you believed, without a doubt, that you can’t control what other people think. What would you go out and do? Stop doing? What would you create in your life if you weren’t afraid of what a few people think.
So many of us hold ourselves back because our perceptions of what other people might think of us. But here’s what happens when you hold yourself back or water yourself down to become more appealing to other people…you become less appealing to yourself. Because you’re not being the real you…in essence, you’re lying.
Take some time to decide whose opinion matters most in your life…is it your boss, your spouse, your mother-in-law, your kids? What if, instead, your opinion of yourself is what mattered most? Because at the end of the day, you have to hang out with your brain…not theirs.
What if you just allowed yourself to just be who you are…and in turn, allowed others to just be who they are…without judgement.
All we really want, as humans, is just to be who we truly are; but we’re so terrified that other people will judge us. Guess what? They’re already judging you…humans judge. You can’t prevent it from happening no matter what you do. So, let them judge.
Not everyone will like you, and that’s okay. The most important thing is that you like you. Have your own back. If you like you, then that’s all that matters.
If you really love yourself and think you’re amazing, then other people’s opinions won’t matter. There’s so much freedom in that.
Stacy R. Landry
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