What To Do When You’re Feeling Out of Whack
Do you feel like you’re riding through life on a flat tire? Like you’re just dragging yourself through the day? Several months ago, I felt like I was stuck in a rut…like my life was just out of whack. Each day, I would go through the motions feeling unfulfilled and just “blah.” As I starting point to figure out why I was feeling just this general unhappiness, I pulled out some old resources I had from the days when I was desperately seeking relief from my overwhelming anxiety and began to reflect on how satisfied I was in each area of my life.
I used the 3 steps below to gain more awareness and to start making some changes that ultimately got me out of my funk.
If your life is feeling out of balance, it’s time to assess where you’re at in each area of your life so that you can make a plan to get you from where you are to where you want to be. Here’s what to do when you’re feeling out of whack.
In order to improve any area of your life, it’s important to gain awareness around where you are now in each area of your life. Take 10-20 minutes to do this quick exercise. Yes, you DO have 10-20 minutes…you probably watch more Netflix or do more Facebook scrolling than that Momma!
Grab a notebook and your favorite pen and rate each of the following areas of your life from 1-10 (with 10 being AMAZING and 1 being awful). Then, write one or two thoughts about why you gave that area of your life that score.
- Relationship (Love Life; you can be happy being single too)
- Family (Your relationships with your immediate family)
- Adventure/Fun (How often are you having new adventures and excitement?)
- Environment (Your feelings toward the physical spaces where you spend time)
- Health & Fitness
- Intellectual (How much are you learning, evolving and growing?)
- Spiritual (Connected, balanced and peaceful practices)
- Community (Your contribution)
- Mental & Emotional Wellbeing (level of inner well-being)
Now, look back over your ratings and make note of anything you rated less than a 7.
Don’t freak out if you have several low scores. It’s about gaining awareness and being honest with yourself. It’s not about beating yourself up. I remember thinking, “well, I’m a hot mess.” But we all are…so don’t make it mean anything about your value as a human being.
“Awareness is the beginning of transformation”
~ Robin Sharma
Now, the key to getting where you want to be is to start taking action. For each of the areas you rated below a 7 and for any other areas you want to improve, write down two ideas of what you can do to improve those areas. No idea is too small or ridiculous.
For example, to add more adventure into your life you could make a commitment to schedule something fun to do once a month. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money…just something you would find enjoyable. Or lets say you want to improve your health, you could commit to drinking 64 oz. of water a day or walking the dog three times a week. If you want to improve your mental health and well-being you could journal each morning for 5 minutes or you could meditate.
The key here is to not overwhelm yourself with a ridiculously long list, or things you know you will not likely do because real transformation comes from consistently taking small steps forward.
Once you have your list of ideas, it’s time to schedule these in your calendar so that you’ll take action. Put it on there like it is a doctor’s appointment and honor your calendar. If you made plans with a friend to meet them for lunch, you would likely show up, right? Show up for yourself! Even if you’re not sure if it’s the right step yet. Just try it out. When you start taking action, you begin shifting your energy and real changes start to happen.
Comment below with how this exercise went for you. Did you have any “aha” moments or realizations? Now, try it out for a week and let me know what happens!
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